For 23 years I have been known as Brianna. For 4 years I have been known as Evans wife. For 2 weeks I have been known as Claire’s mom.
Being Brianna is easy, I worried about a husband, a dog, and myself.. Both of which were capable of taking care of themselves, my dog more so then my husband.. Haha 😉 However, now I am in a transition period. I am no longer just Brianna. I am now known as mom.
Identity crisis? Maybe. I look in the mirror and I see myself but it’s not totally me. I have baggy clothes on that are comfy, I have a soft belly and bags under my eyes. My breasts are huge and veiny and I always have a little leech feeding from them. I am not who I remember myself being. I guess this is part of the fourth trimester that nobody seems to talk about. I am no longer myself, I have changed without meaning to. I promised myself all through my pregnancy to not let myself go; do my hair and make up daily and for crying out loud put a pair of jeans on. But now that I am here, living in the fourth trimester it’s nearly impossible. Every minute I get to myself while baby girl sleeps is particularly planned out- morning nap means shower, mid morning nap means coffee and breakfast, early afternoon nap means I nap too, late afternoon nap means clean and meal prep- you get the idea.
The old Brianna was active at the gym, she loved doing her hair and looking nice even on the gloomiest of days, she loved going to coffee shops to sit and do homework or read, she enjoyed sitting outside rain or shine without a worry. That Brianna vanished quicker than I ever expected. I haven’t done more than a small hike daily, my hair is always up and my makeup is already lost in my drawer, coffee shop dates are now done at the drive thru between feedings, and the time of sitting outside are replaced by napping.
I know this moment in my life is not going to be forever. I know I will find myself again, but in the meantime I am in no rush. I am embracing my “mom do” hair and my baggy circle eyes because that shows my day revolves around something greater and more amazing than anything else that has come my way. I know this stage is so quick lived and I can’t miss a single second without regret.
To my old self: nothing against you but I have found something so much greater to live for right now…but once my life settles I will be back for you and love you deeper then ever before for creating such a beautiful child of mine.
As for now, the “new” me is going to throw her hair up and feed her little bear to sleep, and try to catch a few ZZZ’s before its time to repeat another hectic day…. I love motherhood.
Xoxo
Brianna